A new gym membership.
Extra charges on the credit card.
Less intimacy and more distance.
These are allsigns your partner may be cheating, according toOprah Daily.
And, of course, there’s your gut feeling, telling you something isn’t right.
Of that group, 22% never admitted the affair to their partner.
“You are panicking right now and probably not thinking clearly,” explains psychologist and relationship expertDr.
“Your brain is in crisis mode and you are making decisions based on fear, not logic.”
With that in mind, you’ll want to avoid the no.
1 mistake most people make when they suspect an affair is happening.
The no.
It is easy to operate from a place of ‘I have been wronged and must act immediately.’
Despite the temptation, you should also rule out revenge.
“Especially if infidelity is actually taking place.”
You’re seeking the truth, and what you may be getting isn’t an accurate picture.
“I have seen many affair partners exaggerate or minimize the questionable interactions,” says Dr. Alsaleem.
Or the opposite could be true, and the kiss may have led to something else.
If anything, move away from any further contact or communication with that person.
The goal is to have no involvement."
He or she may think you’re lying, and could feel shocked upon hearing your revelations.
It could “end up with severe legal ramifications” too, says the infidelity expert.
“Especially in cases such as this, individuals tend to react severely.
just, don’t needlessly risk your safety.”
There’s also the possibility you could be encouraging further interactions between your partner and their suspected lover.
Relationship expert and psychotherapist Alex Carling suggests writing down what you want to say before having the conversation.
“There’s nothing wrong in taking a list with you …
However, you should talk to someone.
“Talk to a trusted friend, your pastor, or a therapist.
Just don’t sit there along with your fears and feelings.
Reach out and find empathetic support.”
If it does turn out that your partner has been cheating, you do have options.
“Couples can and do recover from affairs.
Many, many have, and many, many will,” notes couples therapist LuAnn Oliver onPsychCentral.
For some, it can be a doorway into new opportunities.”
Burns adds, “There is no shame in staying, and there is no shame in leaving.”
