There’s nothing like the stress of a first date.
Second dates, on the other hand, can be way more fun.
Especially when you only go on them with the right people.
Your time is too valuable to keep dating the wrong people.
But how do you know if your first date is worthy of a second date?
I went to the experts to find out.
One way to tell if you’re having a good time is if you find yourself smiling a lot.
Her body was subconsciously was aware of something before it hit her brain.
They are married now!"
You didn’t even notice that time had passed as the short coffee date turned into hours of enjoyment.
This comfort with one another is likely a sign that you two are very compatible."
Does he put others down?
Look for clues about how he communicates, because it will indicate how he will do so later.
If he is open, assertive, listens well, and is relaxed, get a second date!"
Milrad shared another good indicator that your date is adept at communication.
“He is able to take cues from your body language or emotional responses,” she said.
“He can read that you are uncomfortable or hesitant and behaves in a respectful, considerate manner.
He gives you space to acknowledge this or set a boundary.
Justin Lavelle, Chief Communications Officer of thePeopleLookeronline background check platform agreed.
You connected on multiple levels, attraction, interests, values, and perspectives.
Bennett put it this way, “Does he get you excited?
Were you laughing and flirting?
Chemistry is a great sign you really like him.
It also means your emotional brain the most powerful part of your brain is on board.”
I’ve had friends who tried to make it work with partners that they weren’t attracted to.
It’s never worked out because it’s so important to feel a sexual attraction to your partner.
Milrad told me it’s a good sign if you feel sexual chemistry.
This innate attraction demonstrates that you have the foundation to have good sexual passion.”
Chemistry and comfort can exist together, and they are a potent mix.
She ended up with addicted, critical men, who broke it off with her abruptly."
Derichs and her client worked to “reset her ‘picker’” for dating.
So she had to change the way she was acting in those first few dates."
Stef Safran, “Chicago’s Introductionista” and owner ofStef and the City, agreed.
People are going to put their best face forward.
That’s the way it’s supposed to work.
She told me, “Trust is important.
A first impression is good if what you thought you were going to get is what shows up.”
Derichs mentioned the importance of compliments, and especially unexpected ones.
Expected compliments feel good" she said.
That’s why if theydofocus on you, it’s a very good sign.
Unfortunately, you will often be stuck with a date who only talks about themselves.
But if you find a date who seems genuinely interested in you, they are second date material.
If your date arrived on time it shows that meeting you was a priority to him."
She shared a story to illustrate her point.
“When she finally started dating again she had a lot of fear.
She is now in a committed relationship with this man.”
Hayes told me, “Often on a first date, people are very focused on impressing you.
However, their true nature is quite likely to shine when they interact with other people along the way.
He said, “If you see him interact with others (like a waiter, etc.
), does he treat them right?
Is he generous, cool, and a good communicator?
If so, that’s a sign of how he likely interacts with others.
If he’s rude or super shy, that’s a good sign he is that way with others.
She saw it is a sign he had a temper and would one day blow up at her.”
Would you like to go out again?'
She said it’s also good to know if he isn’t interested.
“If he doesn’t want a second date that is good to know upfront.
You’ll know not to spend your time wanting someone who is not interested.”
If they made you feel good, that’s a great sign.
Hayes told me, “Some people are very good at making you feel insecure.
Dating should make you feel good about who you are.
Only go on second dates with people who give you that “I’m a rockstar” feeling.
Trust yourself
The bottom line is to trust yourself.
Only you know what’s right for you, so make your decisions based on that.
