However, the realities of contemporary life challenge this idealized version of love and family.

These giant expectations, warns gender expertSusan Shapiro Barash, “can prove a recipe for disaster.”

“We have to remember that women hold the bar very high with their husbands/partners,” adds Barash.

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“They expect [their husbands/partners] to fill every need.”

When that doesn’t happen, it’s no wonder that women turn to infidelity.

Barash discovered that for many women, “infidelity is accessible.

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It is also alluring.

They describe feeling alive, understood, and appreciated.”

Each of these categories corresponds to the missing piece in the marraige or committed relationship.

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Barash’s research confirms that, ironically, having a tryst is one way to achieve happily ever after.