Sex is natural, sex is fun and that’s not just George Michael singing.
“Sexual satisfaction can even be used as a barometer for relationship satisfaction.
“Have sex with yourself first to learn more about your body’s unique responses.”
Don’t just speed toward a happy ending, though, notes O’Reilly.
Light candles, or don’t.
Turn on music, or don’t.
Wear lingerie, or don’t.
Decide what mood works for you, then take time to touch and explore.
“Talk about sex regularly not just when something is awry,” advisessexologist Jess O’Reilly.
“Talk about your fantasies.
Talk about how you want to feel before, during and after sex.”
What is the time of day when you feel most sexual?
Do you like sexual initiation to begin with touch or with words?
What moods, rhythms, and acts during sex turn you on?”
“Discuss the sex you see on TV and in the movies,” she offers.
“What do you like?
What turns you off?
What scenes, scenarios or characters do you find appealing and which ones are off-putting?”
“It can revolutionize the way you approach pleasure, seduction, and sex.”
