Finding out your partner is cheating can be devastating.

Many times, you might have had a nagging suspicion that something just wasn’t right.

Something may have felt off even though you couldn’t quite identify it.

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They said they were simply tired or stressed or, worse yet, you were imagining things.

Yet you still have that sneaking suspicion that you’re able to’t seem to kick.

Marriage and family therapistDr.

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In today’s digital world, the majority of infidelity interactions either start or continue through electronic communication.

However, being secretive about using them certainly is.

“Secrecy is one the most common elements of infidelity,” saysDr.

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“Secrecy manifests in a variety of ways.”

You may also notice that they begin taking their phone everywhere and may have changed their password.

In turn, feeling this loss of intimacy may make you turn away from them as well.

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Though, of course, it can also include infrequent or no sex.

As a result, your connection may have become superficial.

“Lack of intimacy breeds lack of trust and a decrease in vulnerability,” saysDr.

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Partners who cheat often mentally check out of the relationship.

Finding out that your partner has deceived you and gone outside the relationship can be heartbreaking.

Seeking out a therapist can help you navigate through the mess.

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