Your wedding is your special day.
If you don’t, however, your wedding could become something else entirely.
What should you do at your wedding to make it as special as it can be?
What should you completely avoid?
I went to the experts to find out.
Hiring a wedding planner was the best thing my husband and I did for our wedding.
Jessica Jordan, luxury wedding planner, told me, “Hire a wedding planner.
“Don’t hire a day-of coordinator instead of a month-of or partial planner,” she told me.
Daniela Villa Ramos, New York City wedding officiant, stressed the importance of hiring an officiant.
Book someone who gets you and wants to celebrate your story, your way!”
Ramos told me, “Your wedding day is going to feel like a blur.
That’s what happens when you’re having fun, and your wedding day is no different!
So take a mental picture every chance you get!
Yari Perez, wedding planner, agreed.
You don’t have to leave it all to your officiant, either.
They also gave us a chance to set the tone for our marriage and future.
Ramos suggested you write your vows with your partner.
What are the core promises you want to make to each other?
Both of these choices helped him feel that his father was present at the wedding.
It’s a heartfelt way to have them with you, in spirit and memory.”
She gave me some great suggestions for remembering loved ones who have passed.
If you focus on only a few things, the pressure starts to disappear."
Guests can tag their Instagram photos with your hashtag so that they’re all in one place.
Even if you have a wedding photographer, your guests will capture things your photographer won’t see.
Stuck on what to do?WeddingWirehas a fun generator to help you out."
She added, “Don’t drink before the ‘I Do’s.’
She told me a story to highlight the point.
She ended up swaying down the aisle and laughing during the ceremony.”
Don’t sweat the small stuff
Are you a Bridezilla?
Ramos said, “If you’re going for perfect, you won’t fully enjoy your wedding day!
This way you’re able to actually enjoy the day you spent so much time planning!”
check that that you keep it your own even if you have overly involved parents.
She suggested being proactive and communicating with everyone involved.
Don’t follow traditions that mean absolutely nothing to you.
If there are traditions that don’t speak to you, simply don’t include them.
If you want to walk down the aisle with your partner, do it!
If you want to elope in a park and then have a reception at a speakeasy, do it!
Ramos told me in our interview, “Who cares about the social politics of it all?
They all looked gorgeous, and I was happy that they could feel comfortable and beautiful at my wedding.
After all, I wanted to honor them, not torture them.
You either stick to it or you don’t.
Otherwise, things start to get messy.
Perez said it best, “Remember what the day is about… marrying your best friend.
Everything else is just nice to have.
